Politely declining

With the mix of working a full-time job with a few part time gigs, I find myself juggling quite a few different hats.

After moving a little under two months or so ago, I’ve gotten pretty well settled into my new place, but there are definitely a few projects that I have pending that I’ve been wanting to accomplish. Those books won’t find their own way out of their dingy Home Depot cardboard box. But the new couch has been ordered- can the next three weeks go a little faster, please?

Summertime, regardless of the move and professional happenings, has traditionally been a time every year that I find myself busy. Friends in town. Others moving and in various states of flux. Exploring avenues where I can go on new adventures. VMworld looming, albeit exciting, at the end of the month. All positives, but even good things can induce some level of anxiety. A little break from San Diego will definitely be nice. If only the San Diego I live and work in could be the San Diego of my vacation dreams too, right? Even the Big Island is a little bit of a bummer for the people who work hard to live on it.

The mighty Hotel Del.
The mighty Hotel Del.

Recent happenings have been great for my spirits, both personally and professionally- and it almost mimics some of the busiest times I had in college. I say almost because in the back of my mind I’m convinced that I couldn’t ever be that busy again. Back then, I don’t think I took enough time to engage in “self-care”, and I found myself drained. I knew I was hitting all kinds of limits, but I felt like I owed everyone around me my “yes”. Things got to a point where my physical health fell by the wayside. A few years on the outside of all of that has shown me that saying “yes” to everything that comes your way isn’t sustainable. There are more often than not times where “no thanks” is perfectly acceptable. After all, isn’t the act of asking simply inviting the possibility of passing?

#goodideas
#goodideas

Taking the time to do the little things like laugh about ridiculous things with my boyfriend or brush out the knots in Lucy’s fur are always important. Those are the moments where we get to breathe in, breathe out, and take in some gratitude. Maybe my “yogi” friends have the right idea? Those moments can be some of the most important acts of self-care that people can engage in. I’ve often identified myself as a pessimist at times, but identifying the good, whether small or large, has helped move me in ways I never thought it would. And if you’re finding that I’m saying “no” to you here and there, it’s probably because I’m working on recharging my batteries to say “yes” more often.

  • completely agree! I learned a while ago (through lack of self-care) that if I “can’t” (i.e. WON’T) say, “NO”… then my YES means nothing!
    Live the Dream, CC!
    ~m